Emotionally Attractive=Awareness of Others & Empathy

Emotionally Attractive=Awareness of Others & Empathy

Being emotionally attractive sometimes means reading between the lines: knowing what our partners need before they know what they need. Awareness shows thoughtfulness and regard for how others feel.  It’s called empathy as the two of you have joined as one. In healthy relationship two halves make a whole. In relationships that lack emotional attraction those two halves make a hole. Being unaware makes the other feel invisible, discounted and unimportant. Celebrating relationships with awareness means that we can hear, feel and desire our partners’ thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it’s hard to ask for things that we need from our partners but having awareness by playing close attention will make our emotional attraction stronger. For today, find a way to observe your partner’s body language, tone and facial expression during conversations with others, while watching a comedy show or by giving without any reason.

Emotionally Attractive=Awareness of Others & Empathy

Being emotionally attractive sometimes means reading between the lines: knowing what our partners need before they know what they need. Awareness shows thoughtfulness and regard for how others feel.  It’s called empathy as the two of you have joined as one. In healthy relationship two halves make a whole. In relationships that lack emotional attraction those two halves make a hole. Being unaware makes the other feel invisible, discounted and unimportant. Celebrating relationships with awareness means that we can hear, feel and desire our partners’ thoughts and feelings. Sometimes it’s hard to ask for things that we need from our partners but having awareness by playing close attention will make our emotional attraction stronger. For today, find a way to observe your partner’s body language, tone and facial expression during conversations with others, while watching a comedy show or by giving without any reason.

Emotionally Attractive=Enthusiastic & Jovial

Being emotionally attractive beams from the inside out when we are enthusiastic. The energy bounces all over the place. Enthusiasm is contagious and can light up the room. Being jovial makes people feel jolly and joyous. Showing enthusiasm for our partners validate not only them but also the relationship as a whole. When people feel regarded the likelihood is they’ll respond favorably to the gesture. Everyone wants to believe they matter—that somehow they are significant. Enthusiasm motivates and inspires—it’s what every healthy relationship needs to sustain its viability. When was the last time you demonstrated enthusiasm for your mate? What happened in your relationship that made you jump for joy and shout your enthusiasm from the rooftop? Can you remember the last effort you made to make your partner feel special? Relationships are like sporting events: you need to cheer them on. Have a surprise party, take your partner on a surprise getaway or simply bring breakfast to bed and watch old movies together. Enthusiasm means awareness and gratitude and remember you get what you give if you’re in the right relationship.

Emotionally Attractive=Friendly & Kind

Being emotionally attractive is an inside job requiring self-evaluation of traits that define your inner core. Today, I’ll discuss what it means to be friendly and kind to others and how they respond favorably to the gestures we give. A great example to illustrate my point is when we get on an elevator where everyone intensely stairs at the numbers above the door to avoid making eye contact. These trapped people try to pretend they don’t see us, which often causes discomfort. Why do we do this? What are we afraid of? It’s feels rude and awkward to me so in my quest to be friendly and kind, each time I get onto an elevator I immediately greet people with a smile or I’ll ask them to press the floor button for me. Because I’ve broken the ice, others feel safer and can find it easier to relax. “What a relief she can see me.” That’s what friendly and kindness are all about: taking that first step, making that first move, removing the burden and lifting discomfort. To date, I haven’t found one person who didn’t appreciate my gesture but even if I did it’s on them for not being able to relax. The truth is you made the effort and most will be grateful. Once I bought a house and the neighbors were quick to let me know there was a mean woman living next door to me. I decided that I would kill her with kindness. Every time I saw her drive by my house, I vigorously waved and smiled without so much as an acknowledgment. After months of being ignored, this neighbor finally waved slightly but turned away quickly. I was hopeful so I continued waving and smiling. Eventually, she began to wave back and from time-to-time not only did she not grimace she often returned a pleasant gesture. Although she rarely got along with anyone else, she and I had a respectful understanding. It’s hard to be mean and angry all the time when someone extends their kindness. The objective then is not to expect anything back immediately but rather from the heart because we have it to give.  In any relationship whether it is a neighbor, coworker or partner, being friendly and kind matter and the emotional attraction wins out because even if the person it is intended for doesn’t notice, someone else more deserving will.